Today for my 31 Days Positive Parenting post, I’m pulling one from the archives and reworking it a bit. This post was originally published almost six months ago – and it’s funny, but it all still applies. We are still doing the Victory pose in our house – and we’ve added the I Love You sign, as well.
My take-away from this post is to focus on the big picture and to be grateful for what we have. Even on days when I feel discouraged, I look around and can’t feel anything but blessed:
Life has been moving a million miles a minute, and also seemingly going by at glacial speed. Isn’t that the way it is?
A lot of days, I feel like I am running around doing seventy million things, but at the end of the day, I have nothing to show for it. I pick up the house nine billion times in a day, feed snacks, make meals, nurse Violet eight billion times, go to the store, clothe everyone (again and again), give them baths, change diapers, do the laundry, help with homework and piano practice, provide enrichment, go to the park, drive to and from school, swimming, piano, etc.
It is a lot. And at the end of the day, I press reset and get up the next day and do it all over again. Some days it feels futile, but I know each day we move forward and we are building…these girls are growing and building each and every day.
We have little conversations when I least expect it about important things – conversations that happen over breakfast or the drive to school.
Last week Paprika asked me what rich and poor meant. We talked about how all rich and poor means is how much money you have…nothing else. And that a person can be rich in other ways than money. And that some people work very hard and still have little money and others don’t work much at all but have a lot of money. And that money can’t make you happy or make you a better person. It just means that you can buy more things, but not more time.
Paprika wanted to know if we were rich or poor, and I told he we were in the middle and we have just enough. Some people have more, some people have less – and we are happy.
Then we talked about Hiwot, the little girl we sponsor through Compassion. Paprika is always writing letters to Hiwot and she wanted to know if Hiwot was rich or poor. I told her that she had less money than we have but that we send her money each month so that she can go to school and have food, clean water, etc.
Paprika wanted to know if she could send Hiwot all her savings in her piggy bank and if she could send Hiwot all her toys. She wondered why we don’t all split the money in the world evenly, so everyone has just enough.
It’s conversations like that one that make me happy to be here – be present – and help me know why I am here, doing the futile work of mothering every day. Because it’s really not futile. And these girls really do teach me more than I could ever teach them. 😉
Paprika is really into Yo-Yo Ma right now. She loves listening to his performances, and watching him on YouTube (or You Tub, as she calls it). Last week I was showing her some of his early performances, and at that moment, I was certain I was the best mom in the whole world.
Just then, Violet walked in the room foaming at the mouth with some black gravel she’d tried eating in the backyard. Yes – I took off my Mother of the Year crown right then and there. I’m not perfect – just doing my best! 😉
Have you seen this video? We watched it about a year ago, and it impacts us to this day. Whenever the girls are needing a bit of confidence, or even just a little invigoration, we all jump up and shout: Victory!!!!
Victory was actually one of Violet’s very first words. That and Barbie! I think it’s because B and E are the easiest things for Violet to pronounce. That’s what I’m telling myself, anyway. Ha!
Here are the girls mid-Victory pose:
Did this post encourage you today? I hope so! Let me know your thoughts in the comments. xoxo
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