Yesterday, we had our homeschool group’s Chess Club meeting at my favorite park. Well – we were supposed to have Chess Club, but…after I got everyone fed, dressed, hair brushed, made sure they all went to the bathroom, diaper change, outfit change for Ellie, bags packed, snacks packed, ice water cups and sunscreen packed, chess board packed, and myself ready (make-up included) – and loaded everyone into the van…Violet (3) started crying and writhing in pain because her tummy hurt.
Now, Violet is one tough little girl and she never complains. So, when she does complain, I take it pretty seriously – and especially when she’s crying and doubled over in pain. Just like that, the Chess Club was called off, we went back in the house, unpacked, and I laid her down in bed to rest.
Not 30 minutes later, she bounced out of the bedroom happy as can be and was ready to go to Chess Club! Except by this time, the ice waters were warm, Paprika and Ginger were off playing together happily, Baby Ellie needed another diaper change and a nap, Violet had taken off her clothes, the girls’ shoes were nowhere to be found…and so the process to get out of the house had to start all over again at square one.
So – I decided to scrap it and just stay home! It’s amazing how hard it can be to get everybody ready and out of the house, doing it on my own – it’s just exhausting. I kind of gear myself up for it – and then, if it doesn’t happen, I just give myself the grace to try again tomorrow! Ha! I put Ellie down for a nap and we all went for a walk later when Ellie woke up from her nap. It was so peaceful because I didn’t try to scramble and make everyone go to Chess Club an hour late.
I figure that in the big scheme of things, these little frustrations are just that – little frustrations. Ten years from now, I’ll be happier that I allowed things to go with the flow and slowed down.
I’m at the point now where I really only schedule one thing per day for us to do. One thing is plenty (one park trip, one homeschool group activity, one museum trip, etc.) Anything more than that and it’s just too much for me and for the children, too.
On Monday, they had piano lessons – so that was our one thing!
I take them all to the music/dance studio, and they play in the empty ballet rooms when they’re not playing piano with Mr. Ryan (their teacher).
I also signed Ginger (6) and Violet (3) back up for Gymnastics! They have been begging to go back, but we lost our spot when I had Ellie and pulled them out for my “maternity leave.” Two spots opened up in the sibling classes – so Ginger can go to the 6 year old class while Violet (3) goes to the 3/4 year old class.
They have been begging me to take them back to Gymnastics almost daily for months and months. They were SO excited when I told them that we had re-enrolled, and we’d be going that very day!
So, we got there, and Violet (3) did amazing! She was a little hesitant to go to the class at first, but then once she was out there – she listened so well, and followed instructions perfectly.
She was so excited and kept running over to me (in the observation area) – and would jump up and say: Look at how well I’m doing, mommy! I’m learning so much!
But Ginger (6), had a much harder time. I didn’t take any pictures of her at all because…well…it was rough. She has a thing right now about not taking off her socks (for any reason) – and part of gymnastics is that you have to be barefoot. So, she refused to take off her socks, which resulted in her having a meltdown of epic proportions. She wanted to go to her class so badly, but was too scared to take off her socks. I have no idea what the sock thing is about – I’ve tried talking to her at length and I just can’t figure it out.
So, there was a big scene and I ended up looking like the pushiest parent on planet Earth because I kept trying to encourage her to go to her class (which we had already paid for, driven across town to, and taken a big chunk out of our day to get there all because she had been begging me for months!) I actually have no desire for them to do gymnastics – but it’s ALL they talk about, so I was trying to make their dreams come true! Haha!
I had to practice my deep breathing, as I stood there with my baby in the Ergo, Paprika waiting patiently in the lobby, and Ginger melting down around me.
Eventually, I told her we’d unenroll from the class since she wasn’t going to be able to take her socks off to do it. I told her that if at any point, she could get up the courage to take her socks off, we’d enroll her again. I took her up to the front desk to see if we could drop the class. That made things worse – and wow, it was just hard! LOL
So eventually, long story short, I was able to get her to take her socks off, and she joined the class and had a pretty good time. At the end, one of the other moms in the waiting area asked her how her class went, and her response was:
It was highly embarrassing.
Some days you just gotta laugh, or else you’d cry. We’ll see how this week goes at gymnastics – hopefully it will get easier as time goes on. I am keeping Violet (3) in class no matter what, because she is SO enthusiastic about it. She’s a really active child, and she craves that kind of physical activity. So, if Ginger doesn’t want to do it in the future, that’s fine. She can wear her socks and hang out with me in the lobby!
Oh goodness, these days with little ones can be so physically and mentally exhausting – but these days are SO good, too! I laugh about a hundred times each day at the ridiculousness of it all – and yet, I am so happy even in these moments of frustration.
Life is good even when it makes you pull your hair out! Ha!