We’ve had a busy, good week. One thing I wanted to talk about today is kindness, and how important it is in our house/homeschool.
I think a lot about kindness, and how important it is in life. It’s a life skill that we focus on a lot here at home.
Kindness is as important to learn as math, science, or music, and it’s an area where we all have room to grow.
I’m not talking about being polite. Kindness is different than being polite, although there is an element of politeness to it.
Kindness contains empathy and compassion.
Kindness is a learned trait – a muscle that gets stronger with practice.
It’s something I haven’t always gotten right. Now that I’m in my forties, I notice I am kinder than I used to be. It’s something I’ve worked at for many years.
Having children has helped me in my kindness growth. Seeing myself through their eyes makes me take a step back from my ego, and pause for a moment before responding in anger. They teach me to be kinder, more patient, and an overall gentler person. I’m so thankful for them.
Being kind doesn’t mean “don’t have boundaries” – because boundaries are important, and so is self-care and self love.
In our home – which I consider a working life laboratory – we learn to practice kindness, first and foremost with each other.
For example, learning to share with siblings is an opportunity to practice kindness. Kindness turns the act of sharing from being an altruistic act (why do I need to share with my sibling?) to being an opportunity for self-improvement (I get to practice my kindness in this situation).
Through the constant flexing of the kindness muscle, what was once difficult becomes reflex. Kindness transforms hurt into compassion and self-interest into love.
It’s revolutionary, really.
When you practice kindness, you are improving yourself and your impulses…no matter the outcome or the reaction of the other person.
Practicing kindness gives you control over anger and helps you learn to regulate complex emotions.
Kindness is growth mindset in action. We are not born particularly kind, but we can become kind people through practice.
Kindness begets patience and allows for love and friendship to grow.
So – that is why – if you hear me speaking to the girls and they begin to argue*, I will always say:
Practice your kindness! 🙂
(*They really never argue but if they did, they know what I would say…)
In other news, here are a few photos from this week:
Me and Paprika on a walk this weekend – we take our sun protection very seriously! We look dorky, but my goodness , we have fun! 🙂
Huck loves to make music – this was Paprika’s toy 12 years ago!
Ellie helping me in the garage:
Me with the three youngest kids out for a walk this past weekend. Ellie asked me to carry her the whole last half of the walk. I got an arm workout:
Thanks for listening to me ramble on about practicing kindness. I like to get philosophical from time to time.
I’ll be back on Thursday with a new post – full of pictures and fun things we did this week. 🙂
Hope you’re having a great day and I’ll see you here on Thursday! 🙂